This article is going to give you tips on finding the right person for you. It’s going to be about who you are.
If you’ll go on a dating site very often and look at a profile of someone, you’ll see that they talk all about themselves and what they’re looking for in another person. That’s what you need to do. However, yours is going to be private. You can be really honest with your personal details because it’s only for you. It’s kind of a therapeutic exercise because once you put something into writing, very often you hold yourself to it. It’s almost a realization of the things that you really want out of life because you can assess it.
Moving on, here are some tips to help you find out what you want in a man or a woman;
- Think about your strengths and weaknesses.
What do you like about yourself that you would like someone else to know about you? What are you favourite things to do? What’s not acceptable to you at all? What is a deal-breaker? You do want to think long-term because sometimes love has a way of sneaking up on you. Once you find yourself in love with a person, there are obstacles that you have to face together. You have to be willing to deal with those obstacles and if faith is a deal-breaker for you, you might want to put that on a paper. This exercise will also help you decide if you’re ready to start dating.
- Decide whether you’re looking for a companion, for a marriage or children.
These are all really important things because you want to make sure that the person you find is on the same page with you. It’s also important to learn about the things you want to look for another person. Do you like somebody who’s bubbly, or somebody who’s more reserved? Do you like to be the listener or do you like to be the talker? Make sure to write these things down. Write down as much information about the other person as you can.
- Be honest with yourself.
When you are writing your personal ad, it should be real and should be from the heart. Don’t hold anything back. You might want to write down some relationships that you’ve had in the past that didn’t work out.
- Consider your relationships with your parents.
Very often we carry through life problems or things that occurred when we were children and how we were raised. If you had an overbearing parent, you may feel that you want an overbearing mate. You may decide that you’re looking for a father figure or that you are looking for someone who reminds you of someone that you lost. Being specific as you can is very helpful.
If you start to write down a bunch of things that you’re obviously upset about regarding your past, your parents or relationships that you’ve had, you can have the power to change that. Think about what you can do to put that into the past and focus on the future.